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November 27, 2006

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Lawyer Mama

Adorable picture!

There's got to be something going on. Jen's right - my husband is a great dad & truly is a co-parent but he can't seem to hear the damn baby crying in the middle of the night, despite the baby monitor turned up high enough to wake the dead. Hmmm....

jen

CUTE PIC! And I hear ya sista about the being snowed in...as I am just SOUTH of you. We NEED to get together for some drinks sistah!!! ;)
I was ONE cranky ass mama yesterday...I actually went to my room and hid from the children and hubby. It was just TOOOO much.
That said, I love them with all my heart and soul. It's just there are times when I feel suffocated and want to run away for like a week with no hubby...no phones...no people NEEDING me 24/7.

Swampgrrl

Absolutely adorable, indeed. Ditto the point about adoptive mothers not being able to vent their anti-maternal feelings. Same for women who have undergone minimal or fairly substantial fertility treatments.

emma

crankmama...It is not just in mainstream mothering that it is taboo to complain that looking after kids is not the be all and end all. Funnily enough, it is also the priveleged crunchy granola types who peddle this kind of, may I say, brainwashing. Firstly, you have a natural birth and commune with the spirits and it is uplifting (I had one, it wasn't). Then you carry the damn kid on your back until it is three and suckle it until your nipples fall off because it is so damn rewarding and organic and etc etc. Then you homeschool because your precious rosebuds could not flourish in the frosty climate of mainstream school, and on and on.

It really IS quite a radical idea, as you say, that the sexes are nowhere near as fitting into gender roles as regarding parental abilities, as we were always told (brainwashed) to believe.

Joanne/PunditMom

You raise an interesting topic, especially with the link to the piece on adoptive mothers who feel like they can't talk about their children in ways that bio moms can. As a mother by adoption, I do feel that double whammy sometimes and often wondered whether I had it in me to mother a child at all(especially in light of my own mother's inabilities in that area). I was proud of the fact that I had NEVER changed a diaper until the age of 42 when we adopted Rachel (tho' I had changed a tire!)

I wasn't preprogrammed, but with R. it does seem to come naturally, which is one of the reasons I know that she was the child I was meant to mother.

Sorry about the big snowstorm, but she is a cutie in the snowsuit! ;)

skyangelannie

Awww...the snowsuit pic is cute..;)

About the mothering...yeah, there are times when I love my kids and there are times when I want to run and hide...

AdventureDad

I think women are more gifted with women. Or perhaps most of the men are too lazy, unintelligent, career-horny, and blind to realize that they can do as well as any mother. They just have to try a lot harder

Cute photo!

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bec

I could almost wish I lived somewhere cold, in order to rug up my kinder into such cuteness!

Almost. Not quite.

As for the mothering. Yeah to all that. And a bit of Yea, verily, too.

loralee

Oh, the conflict of having kids. ESPECIALLY when they are small. It can be maddening.

Well said for those moms who are not in dainty molds or who are trying to convince everyone that they are!

Mombat

Well said.

I like to justify my "realness" in this way: our kids need to learn how to navigate through all sorts of emotions and personalities. They also need to learn about personal space and consequences of their behaviors. So, when I am relaxing with a cup of coffee and the paper on a Sunday morning, they know to respect that lest I throw them outside in a snowsuit like you did your daughter. (Who is cute, by the way.)

deb

I love my kids and couldn't wait to be a mother but I am so sick and tired of being a mother. I want my own fucking life, but don't listen to me, I have teenagers. I am in hell.

janet

although I am not a mom, I appreciate yours and Emma's honesty because someday I'd like to be a mom. It's good to get this point of view. A bit of a reality check, I suppose.

Momish

Too cute!

And, I truly appreciate when you write such open and realistic posts like this. It makes me proud to be a mother and woman, a real one.

jen

adorable..

and yes, it does feel like there is some preprogramming, even though i dont' understand it..otherwise, we wouldn't be the only ones hearing them in the middle of the night....

Paige

She is precious, without a doubt.

Moobs

I wonder at what Emma has unleashed.

By the way the answer to your snowsuit question is no!

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